Schools that implement PBIS create a set of expectations, share them with the students, and then model them using class exercises. These expectations remain the same for students on the playground, in the classroom, and on the bus.
But, what about at home? Using PBIS at home can help students maintain those expectations.
Remind your child what it looks like to be SAFE, RESPECTFUL, and RESPONSIBLE at the dinner table, playing with his or her siblings, or while caring for his or her belongings. Help your child learn to be responsible by ensuring their homework is completed every night and they return it to school in their back pack each morning.
Get Involved in Your School’s PBIS Initiative
- Learn more about PBIS.
- Join the PBIS Leadership Team at your child’s school.
- Learn “The Rules” that have been implemented at your child’s school and create consistency by enforcing them at home.
- Encourage other parents and family members to take an active role in PBIS.
- Share the PBIS successes from your family with your child’s PBIS leaders.
The PBIS Way:
Early in the school year, and at regular intervals throughout the year, students are explicitly taught:
- “The Rules” or a set of simple expectations, developed by the school, to communicate what is expected of all students in all areas of the school.
- Rewards used to reinforce positive behavior.
- Consequences of choosing to go against the rules.
Expected Behavior at Home
Different homes may have different sets of expectations. Whatever you decide is right for your home, it is important to establish the expectations, and then follow through. To help you get started, here are a few tips and examples other families have used:
Quick Tips for Parents
- Use positive words (try to take the words no, don’t, and stop out of your vocabulary).
- Post both school and home expectations where your child can see them. Use pictures, if you need to, to reinforce their understanding.
- Model the expectations you have for your child.
- When your child is misbehaving, ask him or her to answer the question “why?”
- Reward positive behavior often.
Example #1 | Use positive wording
When misbehavior occurs offer positive alternatives instead of harsh criticism.
Use your inside voice.
No playing catch inside.
Play catch out in the yard.
Example #2 | Be a teacher
If you have to say no, give a reason why.
Scenario: While shopping, your child asks you to buy him a toy. He already has toys, and you are short on time. You tell your child, “No, we cannot buy that toy today. You already have a toy in the car to play with on the way home.”
If your child accepts your answer make sure to compliment him. If your child becomes upset, remember that it is important to follow through with your original statement, rather than caving in to their wishes.
Example #3 | Reward positive behavior
Use positive reinforcement to teach children what actions are accepted and desired. Rewards don’t need to cost a thing. Try sitting down with your child to find out what rewards would work best.
- Ask your child to make a list of the things they enjoy like going to the park or getting ice cream together. This will help you determine what they are motivated by.
- Create a special "reward" basket of toys that you already own, but they only get to play with when they have shown what was expected. You can do this with stickers as well to earn the basket of toys.
- Create a menu of rewards, such as special dinners, special desserts, computer time, game night, watching extra TV, extra book time, etc.
- Create celebration dances or songs.
- Create a system of recognition. If one of your expectations is that your child will do chores each week, create a board that lists each chore. When your child has completed a chore, use a sticker to mark it complete. At the end of the week, give a reward if all chores are complete. Consider choosing a reward from the list your child made of things they enjoy!